Mom Advise : Purity Ring

My eldest is at the prime of her life which is the teen age years, she is already 16 years old, having said that we are now living where in Millennials kids reigns and influence almost everything from trends, fashion, music, social media and almost everything in between that most of us who grew up during 80's and 90's might not understand anymore, however when you have a millenial daughter or son then you have to blend in and for me it is a must that I understand their language.

We can not deny that at this time of their generation, having a relationship is now as early as 12 years old (shocking it may be!), this is due to the very effecient and effective social media, love teams (pbb teens), twitter, instagram, hugot love posts and everything that insinuate that having relationships is the thing now.

What can we do as parents to let them realize that having boyfriends or girlfriends at an early age does not define their happiness and they should only be focusing to what they should do best and that is studying.

I have discussed this with my eldest, I told her that since our age gap difference is not that huge, I can well communicate with her using their language, so you know I can blend in.  I told her how blessed are the kids right now since everything are at their own convenience, studying won't have to take that long search in a library to look for the book you need and have to renew the borrowed dates every three (3) days to avoid penalty, no need to actual go the exact place where you need to do the research like what we did in Pampangga when we were in college to do the actual research for the Pinatubo Crisis.  Everything is at the tip of their fingers. However our teenage time management is always lost.

I even gave her an example : A pie of 100%, as for their priorities

60% - School (Assignments/ Projects /Activities)
30% - Social Media (When they open their phones they check all social media and they never notice how much time it took from them)
10%  - This where everything sticks together. Family, Personal Interaction with Friends, Church, Household Chores

This is the real pie chart of what is going on with The Millennial Time Management as subdivided according to the most and least important of their activities in their busy life.

Knowing that there is only 10% left for the family, me and my husband would still want to instill good values to our children.  We still have dinner together less the gadget, we watch movie together and even have a random midnight snack with the kids we talk about their daily lives in school, church and life.

Addition to that, we have given our eldest daughter Purity Ring, as our gift. Before giving it to her.

What’s purity ring?
A purity ring is any ring worn as a visual symbol of a commitment to purity. There are different types of purity rings. A purity ring can be a plain and simple band, or can be a more ornate ring set with birthstones or diamonds. Some people are looking for a purity ring that stands out and makes a bold statement.

These types of rings usually have words on the outside of the band like “True Love Waits” or “Purity”. These rings can be conversation starters and give the wearer an opportunity to share their faith. Others prefer a more understated ring, one that is a personal reminder rather than an outward statement. These types of rings include plain bands, which can be engraved on the inside, to keep the ring personal. You can engrave any message on the inside of the ring. Popular messages are Purity, True Love Waits, a scripture reference, name, or even a personal message of encouragement. Another popular choice for this type of personal ring is a simple cross ring, or other birthstone ring. Purity rings have come a long way over the years. New styles are available in a variety of different metals to accommodate different budgets. Purity rings are available in a large assortment of sizes as well. We have an in stock size range from 4-13, and we can special order sizes 3 and 14.

Sometimes purity rings and promise rings are used interchangeably, however, historically, the term promise ring is used to describe a ring that symbolizes a commitment to another person; like a pre-engagement ring.
(source : http://www.purityring.com/)

We prayed for the ring and explained to her the importance of her being pure until her wedding, save it for the man he is going to marry.

Ephesians 5:3 (KJV)
3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;

For moms with teenage girls, this will be the best idea for Christmas to give them as gift.